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It’s All About The View

I read somewhere that a view gives a person perspective.

That explains a lot, because my daily dose of barren trees, mud mounds, and the neighbors’ squatting dog inspires little more than stilted paragraphs of self-doubt.

Seems I better find a different means of perspective, because save a stint of reincarnation or time travel, an everyday glimpse of spectacular coastal France is not in my future.

Nice, France from my cubby-sized stateroom. C'est très jolie!

The logical solution is to transform my immediate writing environment. Will that new-age Kung Fu or Fungus Shui or whatever the enlightened are doing these days spark my creativity?

Thinking back on the eleven years in my home, I wonder how I ended up parked in front of a cramped table in a cold basement, with only one window to brighten my outlook, its dimensions the size of Yoda’s fingernail. But Yoda unlike, its inspiration, serves me not.

Funny, because upon moving into the home, skin still elastic, bosom still ample (it’s called poetic license, and I’m invoking its use), I seem to recall claiming a high-ceilinged, fire-place enhanced room for my den. I also recall decorating the room to my liking, a muted collection of blacks, browns and taupes à la an African theme. This was to be my sanctuary, something the kind Mr. Rubin agreed I deserved. After all, I had recently bore his two children, not much but a trigger-happy bladder left in their place. Plus, I’ve lived in some crappy joints in the past (there’s a future blog post in many of them; that and roving schools of silverfish). This was my payback.

And it was. I scratched out my novel in that room at the beginning of the millennium. But sometime over the past decade, as my writing time dwindled and my other responsibilities quadrupled, a paper-strewn, beer-scented man cave replaced my peaceful African providence.

Hey! Now wait just a damn minute!

Daniel Craig's got nothing on my man. (Photo credit Wikipedia.org)

Fine. I retreated to the basement—no desk in our bedroom and too noisy in the kitchen. And really, why risk getting a fat hiney in the process? What about my kids’ bedrooms? Well, if you need to ask, then you don’t have children. In fact, I believe the class bunny, forced upon us one holiday weekend, still hops in one of those hell holes. Or decomposes. Poor Floppy Ears. (Relax, PETA, I’m kidding.)

Unfortunately, it didn’t take long before a family computer took root in my dank piece of basement heaven. The beer smells and clutter and male bodily noises soon followed. And yet there I remain. Cramped, cold, and uninspired.

View and perspective, my ass.

On your behalf, I will make the remainder of this nail-biter brief.

Photo credit: Microsoft Clip Art.

I am a woman. My family heard me roar. My husband’s desk in the never-intended man cave now resides in the guest room. As do the beer bottles. And the pile of papers. And the soon-to-be carpet stains.

And the best part? He doesn’t care. He’s one of those rare, wonderful, enviable birds who are happy just to be. Sort through work issues upstairs? No problem. Scratch and burp in the guest room? Be happy to. Hey, this is the home of an introvert. We don’t have many guests.

So now, with the room aired out, African artifacts realigned, blinds for five big windows (count them—five!) functioning and ready to rise, will this new environment give me the needed perspective?

We’ll see. My desk arrives shortly.

What about you? Does your environment affect how you write (or draw, or work, or stuff classroom bunnies, or whatever it is you do)?

Note: This post was inspired by Riatarded, a witty blogger who is encouraging other bloggers to participate in “The Uninspired Chronicles”, which involves writing a post about how you “overcome the creative funk”. If you’d like to post on a similar theme, check out the link.

Please With A Capital Pee

If you have a weak constitution, I suggest you ignore this post. I’ll take the loss. Just stay on the page long enough to register as a site visit. No sense to punish my stats for your frailness.

Today’s sentences will involve potties, urine, hair, toilet paper, and a hardened green substance spattered on a urinal. Why? Why not.

Long ago, during graduate school (bet you’re surprised to hear about higher education after the previous paragraph), my husband and I cleaned a fast-food restaurant. Given our school load was intense, we had little time for other employment, but the few hours of cleaning each night brought in much-needed cash.

Imagine the expression of a person about to have a Pap smear, root canal, and colonoscopy, one right after the other, and then apply that to the younger, unwrinkled Rubins when we launched the dreaded nightly countdown to the required cleaning. Seven. Days. A Week.

Thinking back now, I believe my expression was the more pained of the two. Which makes perfect sense, given I had to tackle the bathroom (worst negotiation ever).

So, with today’s post, I hope to provide a public service by asking: what in the heck is wrong with people? Does no one remember the Golden Rule? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you? (Or whatever form of the saying you learned.) Thank you, Mother, for teaching me this ethical guideline early; it’s an easy credo to follow and comes with a big payback.

Allow me to apply this rule to bathroom etiquette:

Dear public restroom user,

  • Would you leave itty bitty shreds of toilet paper lying all over your linoleum? Especially if you knew hundreds of people would come along, trampling those bits of tissue with wet shoes, making the little paper critters nearly impossible to lift off the floor? No? Then please don’t do so in public.
  • Would you leave piss all over the toilet seats, floors, and walls in your home? No? Then please don’t do so in public.
  • Would you deposit long, curly black pubic hairs over the commode and floor in your guest bathroom before visitors arrived? No? Then please don’t do so in public.
  • Ladies. Would you stuff a maxi pad the size of an airplane pillow into your master bedroom toilet? No? Then please don’t do so in public.
  • And men. Oh, men, men, men, men, men. Would you really, I mean really, hock a big ol’ green loogie on the porcelain god in your own restful sanctuary? No? Then I beg of you, please do not do so in public. I still possess nightmares of chiseling that petrified gunk off of the urinal as well as the biceps to prove it. A scraping tool should never have to be a component of bathroom cleaning supplies.

I could go on forever, but I won’t. You get the picture. So please, the next time you use a public bathroom, think of me and my scraper.

And if that doesn’t disturb you, I don’t know what will.

All images from Microsoft Clip Art

Low On T? Try Lack Of E!

There I was, going through my usual morning routine of face-transformation à la Neutrogena and Clinique, CNN humming in the background, when a deafening commercial track came on, and a masculine voice filled the air.

“Is low T making you feel like a shadow of yourself?”

Say what?

Is it not discomforting enough I have to see Viagra-pumped, salt-and-pepper-haired men walking hand and hand on the beach with the woman they’re about to pounce? Now I have to hear about their low testosterone levels too?

Maybe my ire was merely due to irony. Because, let me assure you, there is no lack of T in my home. Especially on football-rich days like yesterday. It is a wonder my husband and oldest son can still ambulate, what with the amount of time their asses spent fused to recliners.

And the food! Is there a rule that only artery-plugging and lipid-dripping fare is allowed during football games?

Allow me to show you a sample of the consumed sustenance by the men in my household these past two sports-driven weekends.

Should I be impressed or horrified by my son’s proud proclamation he inhaled 33 wings, compliments of Quaker Steak & Lube, skin and all? Seriously? Should a restaurant’s name even be allowed to contain the word “Lube”?

The usual routine in our home involves my cooking nutritious, low-fat, vegetable-rich items Monday through Friday, with a more relaxed intake on Saturday and Sunday. But that doesn’t mean the complete banishment of anything green or greaseless!

As mothers, we like to think we have instilled good habits in our children. By pumping them full of veggies and fruit from an early age, we convince ourselves they’ll make healthy choices when they are older.

Yeah, right. One weekend of football sent that hope fleeing faster than a democrat at an Ann Coulter book signing.

But I’ll accept it. I’ll keep my mouth shut (though not my fingers, as evidenced by this public blogging). What kid doesn’t deserve a weekend with dad watching football and eating junk without interference from the estrogen maker? Life is too short, after all.

But even though I am far from a girly girl, every so often, maybe once every total eclipse, I could stand for a little less T and a little more E.

Me and "Helen Mirren" at Madame Tussaud's in London

Photo credit: Images other than my own from Microsoft Clip Art

The Girl With The Treadmill Shelf

If I wasn’t there already, this post will surely land me in the dork pile. And if you don’t believe me (as if you wouldn’t), just ask my son. He’s the one that snapped these photos.

So, like any self-respecting, middle-aged woman clinging to what little hipness she might still possess, I will use the photos as blog fodder, humbling myself in the process.

Despite what my last entry might have implied, I am a big fan of keeping one’s temple fit and healthy. Exercise and motion are pivotal to good health. Sitting hunched at a computer for hours on end is not. Besides, more time on the rear puts more pounds on the steer.

So, shortly after I made my transition to writing, I began blabbing to my husband about a fancy treadmill desk I read about online. I believe his response was, “Hmmm”, or “That’s nice”, or “I’m sorry, what did you say? I wasn’t listening.”

But apparently he heard something, because nestled under my Christmas tree of mismatched ornaments was the gift that keeps the ticker tocking.

How did he fit it under the tree, you ask? Well, he did not buy me a $3,000 treadmill desk. Don’t be ridiculous. (Oh, that was his response!) Instead he tracked down a plastic treadmill shelf, priced at a mere two digits. And believe me, he had that baby set up in no time, probably even before my face cleared the “what in the…?” expression.

And you know what? It works great! I pop my laptop on the shelf, strap it in, and I am off and running. Well, not actually running. I can’t really stroll faster than a 2.0 speed; I am trying to write, after all. But that’s okay. I’m not using it for exercise. I’m using it to get off my behind and save my back. Plain and simple.

So call me a geek (my son does); call me a loser (my other son does); or just tilt your head, squint, and stare (my husband does). I will use my $39.95 shelf. I will walk proud. And I will write.

The Diva Among Us

As you may know from my previous posts, I recently visited family. After a week at my mother’s house, I have learned three things: 1) cats are creepy, 2) cats want to replace us, and 3) I love them anyway.

Let’s start with the creepy. As the saying goes, a picture is worth a thousand words, and that phrase has never been more apt than for the following photograph. I realize we humans show off the occasional red eye, maybe even a blink or a wink, but brightly glowing demon peepers? I think not. And no, this picture was not altered.

As for the desire cats have to replace us, just check out how this feline (appropriately named Diva, I kid you not) took over:

My step aerobics…

My nephew’s Beyblade Let It Rip toy… (The only battle to be waged in this play arena is kitty claws vs. kindergartener.)

My mother’s Pinot Grigio… (See the lovely Diva sprucing up via tongue bath for a wine-tasting party, to which, needless to say, I was not invited.)

But the following is the real Maraschino on top. Imagine my surprise (er, disgust?) upon entering my room after a victorious card game only to find the tacky tabby grooming her nether regions on my bed. Near my pillow. Where I sleep. And judging by the expression on her whiskered countenance, I am the one at fault. Who darest disturb the queen in her chambers?

But alas, I claimed to have learned three things, and I must admit to them all. Although cats are creepy and apathetically arrogant, and although they wish to replace us (apparently some, like Diva, have accomplished their mission), I still inexplicably love them.

Diva, the queen goddess included…

The Little Orange Ball: A Tale of Tragedy

I am happy to report, my sons and I made it to our destination safely and with only one adolescent meltdown. This particular meltdown was due to a small rubber ball. Yes, a little orange bouncy ball. You know the kind, the ones you procure from an arcade game for a quarter. The ones that are apparently so precious, World War III erupts when an older sibling hurls it out the car window in response to a younger sibling bouncing it off his face.

This particular rare, only-available-from-vending-machines-everywhere ball presently lies in a cold puddle of water outside the Mohawk service station on eastbound Interstate 90 (the above photo is of a similar, exceptional rubber gem). Though the bruises it left behind (both emotionally and physically) will soon fade, and its shiny polymers will shortly be forgotten, it is a sober reminder that even the tiniest of triggers can lead to full-blown sibling anarchy.

So to those parents who have survived the teenage angst and are presently out of the woods, good on you! For those of you knowing only beatific, adoring toddlers, well, good luck. And for those of us currently entrenched in the mire, heed this advice: Anything, no matter how small, no matter how insignificant, no matter how out-of-stream-of-thought it may be, can awake the dark tenant housed within the teenage temperament.

Be afraid. Be very afraid…

Traveling With Testosterone

In just a couple days I will be traveling from Ohio to New Hampshire to visit family. By car.

Now, don’t misunderstand; I love to drive. Little is more liberating for me than to rise before dawn, ditch the responsibilities, and hit the open road. And that includes the congested, less-than-pleasant smelling service stations dotting Interstate 90. Where else can you fill up on calorie-dense, preservative-rich food at inflated prices, play an arcade game or two, relieve yourself, shop for jewelry, trade smiles with grumpy drivers, pluck a DVD from a vending machine, and pump gasoline all in one location?

Yes, just give me the road, my satellite radio, and a dose of caffeine, and I am good to go. One straight shot. Ten hours in good conditions, eleven in bad. Only a few quick stops at the aforementioned havens.

There is only one teeny, tiny, potential for catastrophe. I will be traveling sans husband with two boys. Not little boys; that I could handle. Car seats have straps for a reason. No, these travel companions include a tween and a teen. A rather loud tween and a teen. In the back seat. Of a Prius.

For the most part, they are excellent travelers. They require minimal stops which pleases their goal-oriented mother (“we’re off schedule, d—it!”). They are more than happy to eat the heart-stopping service station provisions. And they enter a state of bliss in about their fifth straight hour of video games or DVDs (hey, don’t judge, I do make them read a little). It is just that every once in a while, every so often, something can set off that sweet, precious, adolescent temperament, and the transformation from peaceful siblings to ferocious warriors erupts like a seething volcano.

Did I mention we’d be in a Prius?

So I will keep my fingers crossed and hope for peace and harmony. Or at least a temporary cease-fire. I’ll tolerate the male anatomy jokes and bodily functions talk so inexplicably popular among male youth. I’ll abide the countless “are we there?” yets. I’ll even bear the inevitable odors (small Prius, remember?)

But please, oh please, just let there be peace.

Cartoon images: Microsoft Clip Art

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