Dexter And My First-World Problem

Someone just slap me, because if this isn’t a first-world problem, I don’t know what is. But I miss him.

Who?

Dexter, the world’s nicest serial killer.

Dexter

For the past eight years, I’ve hand-flapped and twirled, shimmied and swirled come Showtime’s release of the latest Dexter DVD. Nothing short of Christmas in my mailbox from Amazon.com. (Don’t worry, no spoilers ahead.)

For those who don’t know, the television series Dexter revolves around Dexter Morgan, blood-spatter specialist for the Miami Police Department by day, serial killer by night.

Wait, before you judge, it’s important to understand Dexter is not your dime-a-dozen serial killer (yawn). He’s a serial killer with a moral code.

Dexie only kills killers.

Ah, that’s sweet. Especially since he doesn’t eat his victims.

Nom nom nom.

Nom nom nom.

Nothing says downtime like watching an auburn-haired psychopath seal off a room in plastic, immobilize his despicable victim on a table, and stab a knife through the wide-eyed captive’s chest.

He’s groovy, that Dexter.

But alas, I recently watched the final episode of the final season, and like the killers on Dexter’s table, I’m fretting over what comes next. A big, fat nothing.

How stupid is that? Mourning the end of a TV show? But I can’t help it. Between the writing, the acting, and the escapism, I hate to see it end.

This isn’t the first television series whose loss I’ve grieved. Others included Six Feet UnderPrison Break, and Damages. Plus, I know when Justified, The Big Bang Theory, and Luther (BBC detective show with the fantastic Idris Elba) come to an end, my heart will be just as achy.

Sigh.

Sigh.

My next series binge will be Breaking Bad. Given all the hype, will that show’s finale shroud me in black as well?

Yes, I’m being silly. Yes, the world has much bigger problems. No, please don’t troll me and tell me I don’t know what real loss is (hashtag humorblog, remember?…)

But I’m still sad.

Perhaps you’ve felt the same?

Any TV shows on which you binge? Buy the DVD and watch an entire season at warped speed? Any you’re sad to see end?

226 Responses to “Dexter And My First-World Problem”

  1. Pete Denton

    I’m going to miss Dexter too. A least the books are still being published so he will live on in print format. I was addicted to The West Wing as well so any time they want to bring that back gets my vote 🙂

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    • Carrie Rubin

      I haven’t started the Dexter books yet. I might have to give them a try, though it might be hard to shift gears when the TV characters are so ingrained in my mind.

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

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  2. Jean

    I gave up on Dexter after the rape season. That one scarred me and I moved on to greener pastures. My husband and I binged on Game of Thrones recently. I described as Dexter + Lord of the Rings. Yes, of course this is a first world problem and it’s one I totally share with you.

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    • Carrie Rubin

      Yeah, that wasn’t my favorite season either. I’ve heard Game of Thrones is good, but there’s a lot of sexual assault in it, which is why I haven’t started watching it. Plus, just never enough time…

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

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  3. butimbeautiful

    Game of Thrones! and…no that’s it. I would like to watch Dexter so I know what other people are talking about, but, what the heck, I never do anyway.

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    • Carrie Rubin

      I’ve heard Game of Thrones is great, but I’ve also heard there’s a lot of rape. Not sure I have the stomach for that. I’ve also thought about reading the books, but like you and Dexter, I never do. 🙂

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  4. Christi

    Years ago, my best friend and I were really into Roswell (the show with teenage aliens, yes, that one…). We were so sad when the series ended; it was a bit like saying goodbye to a good friend.

    More recently, I binge-watched Battlestar Galactica. The writers were grasping a little toward the end, but I was still sad when it ended. I actually ran into the girl who played Starbuck once when she donated something to the nonprofit I work for. I didn’t recognize her right away and chatted with her without any nod to BSG, which was probably for the best anyhow.

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  5. jeanjames

    I was sad when PBS’ Call The Midwife ended. It was based on the memoirs of a nurse working in post WWII London. Now I’m hooked on Showtimes Masters of Sex the story of Masters and Johnson. I missed out on the whole Dexter craze, but there’s always Netflix I suppose.

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  6. Claire Duffy

    I understand completely – great (even flawed) series draw me in so brilliantly and inexorably that I feel I’ve lost friends when it’s all over – it is heartbreaking! I’ve always felt that way to some extent, but I think that binge watching has made it worse: when we were limited to once a week watching the relationship was like a grown up friendship, you were happy it was in your life, but, you know, you did other stuff in between and so the loss wasn’t quite so keenly felt. But now, a dirty weekend spent with seasons upon seasons of something brilliant gets into your bloodstream and it’s like the honeymoon phase of an illicit affair (erm… so I’m told) that leaves a physical craving once it’s gone!

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    • Carrie Rubin

      You described it perfectly! That’s exactly how it is. I don’t seem to notice it as much with the weekly views, but those binges immerse me in a world I don’t want to leave. Until I find the next fix, that is…

      Thanks for reading and commenting. I appreciate it. 🙂

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  7. philosophermouseofthehedge

    Dexter fans – in secret – would upset the gentle neighbors…then went through Breaking bad…now adrift.
    OH, our library had loads of Dexter books – a series!….readers apparently snarked about the TV series…

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    • Carrie Rubin

      I’ve waffled back and forth whether to read that series. Some say the shows are much better, and the books aren’t worth it. Others say the books are great. Guess I’ll have to get one and decide for myself. 🙂

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  8. lidipiri

    I grieved its end too for more than one reason. A friend and I loved the show and though in different continents, sharing our thoughts on the episodes connected us. He had the added hook that he was smitten with the Ozzy blonde killer. I was smitten by the acting and surprised that I could like a killer so much! 🙂 By the way, welcome back (which is really a welcome back to me in the blogger world.) I enjoy your writing so much.

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    • Carrie Rubin

      Aw, thank you. So nice to hear. 🙂 And I agree–the acting in Dexter is amazing. Such a great cast. And the ability to make a killer so likable? Definitely some great writing behind that.

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  9. Kourtney Heintz

    Aw, I totally feel you on this one. I’m a binge watcher so I’ll watch an episode a day of something. Then the characters become part of my daily life. So when I jam through all the episodes, there’s a tiny hole where that show used to be. I’m a huge fan of Vampire Diaries. I’ll need a few days whenever that finishes up. 🙂

    Definitely a first world problem. But also a writer problem I think. I invest time to watch the story arcs and the character development and I get really immersed in a show in a different way–as a storyteller. So I think we’re allowed our little loss when a great story wraps up. 🙂

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    • Carrie Rubin

      I agree, and ever since I became more focused on writing, not only do I read books differently, I watch shows differently, too. I see how the writer did things, and I think, “Wow, that’s brilliant,” or “Hmm, why did she make that character do that?” or something along those lines.

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  10. C. Miller

    I’ve never seen Dexter (mostly because I have an issue with blood in movies/television…don’t ask me, I’m weird), but I’ve heard EXTREMELY good things about it. Good enough things that I wish I didn’t have the blood-problem. It really just sounds(ed *sadface*) awesome.
    But I feel your pain. I don’t even want to say how big a mess I was when I had no more episodes of Merlin to watch. I still have withdrawals from it. :/

    Also, I got in on The Big Bang Theory kind of late (VERY RECENTLY), but I love it. It’s so great!

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    • Carrie Rubin

      Yep, no shortage of blood in Dexter, not so much from his extracurricular activities as from his job as a blood spatter expert. So you’d have to cover your eyes a lot. 😉

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      • C. Miller

        I can only imagine. I started watching The Blacklist and I don’t even want to say how much head-turning I’ve had to do from that one……and it’s not on HBO.
        >.>
        I can’t stop watching it though!

        Sometimes I wish they’d make censored versions of everything, but I guess that would kind of defeat the purpose of something like Dexter. But it sure would be nice for all the lame-o’s like me…
        XD

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  11. djmatticus

    Studio 60, Friends, Firefly, Pushing Daisies.
    I will weep, openly, for weeks, when The Simpsons finally says goodbye.

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    • Carrie Rubin

      I loved Pushing Daisies! I was upset they didn’t renew it. Was such a different show with a unique premise, and the cast was great, especially Chi McBride. My son would agree with you on Firefly.

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  12. pegoleg

    Hill Street Blues, St. Elsewhere, Seinfeld, Northern Exposure…do we notice a pattern here, Carrie? All shows that aired when God was a toddler. I need to get with today. Which is why I’m grateful for the Luther suggestion – I’ll definitely check it out.

    By the way, my condolences on your loss.

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    • Carrie Rubin

      Haha, thank you. As for: “All shows that aired when God was a toddler.”—That made me laugh out loud (which you often do!)

      Luther is great. I can’t think of many better actors than Idris Elba. He’s a chameleon–can play anything.

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  13. writerwendyreid

    I know, Carebear, and you’re not alone. I loved Dexter but don’t get it with my satellite package. The seasons are ridiculously expensive so it might be awhile before I can catch up on that one. I also was a huge breaking bad fan, as well as Sons of Anarchy and get neither of those shows either.

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    • Carrie Rubin

      I get a lot of my DVDs from the library to avoid buying them. Only probably is, they quickly become overdue, and I’m too cheap to pay the $1 a day late fee. We also have a used DVD store near us. I can get entire seasons of shows for around $7-15 depending on the number of episodes.

      I guess I’m not surprised you like Dexter. 😉

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